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Today’s Family: Listening for greatness

In today’s modern age self-doubt and multiple points of view are major obstacles to effective communication. This is especially true when it comes to parenting and developing children. Parents who are being too strict or authoritarian can prove to be a hurdle for children to express their own self whereas being too lenient or permissive could lead them down the wrong ...

 
 

Today’s Family: Tech time limits

Time change and cooler weather are upon us. As the nights grow longer and the temps get lower, we tend to want to snuggle up with ...our technology! So what’s a parent to do? According to a 2014 article by Nick Bilton in theNew York Times, Apples’ Steve Jobs was a low tech parent and there are a number of other technology chief executives and venture capitalists who ...

 

Today’s Family: Your anxiety Is not you

Life's challenges are sometimes overwhelming and we often feel alone dealing with them. Children and teens experience stress and anxiety in ways different than adults. The way each group looks at the world and their problems is based on a myriad of views: parents, teachers, friends and social media. Their core identities are emerging, and the world is becoming a much ...

 

Today’s Family: Dealing with back to school stress

It’s back to school and for many families, a time of stress, worry, and anxiety. It’s a return to scheduled wake times, multiple activities, minimal free time, and utter chaos. How do I get my kids back on a routine that works after the carefree days of summer? Don’t let your anxiety have you this school year. Consider telling your stress and worry, “I’ve got this,” ...

 

Today’s Family: Are you destroying trust?

The best way to know where your children are is to ask them, right? I remember a time when I had to work late, and my kids were home alone. They were of the age when I could trust them to be by themselves but was still concerned that something could go wrong and they wouldn’t know how to take care of it. I asked them to check in with me every hour or so to reassure ...

 

Todays’ Family: Getting your kids off the couch

Who has started counting down the days until back to school? Are the kids starting to bounce off the walls yet, complaining about their boredom? I have mixed emotions about the summer months. I love the first week after school gets out and celebrate no alarms or schedules and eat ice cream for dinner. Then it sets in. Lazy, hazy days begin to turn into the ...

 

Today’s Family: It’s not your journey

I recently returned from the family vacation of a lifetime to Europe with my two daughters, ages 19 and 22. One is a recent college grad and the other, completing her freshman year. We had talked about this celebration trip several times — their high school graduation, turning 18 and 21 and various spring breaks but this was the perfect timing as the recent college ...

 

Today’s Family: Screen time and mental health

My daughter would stay in her room for hours and sometimes days at a time. I’d slip food under the door and supply her with water to keep her hydrated. I’d poke my head in every so often to make sure she was still in there and offer a trip for ice cream. My daughter is an extreme introvert and a normal teenager. How do you know the difference between introverted, ...

 

Today’s Family: The language barrier

Do you ever feel like you and your kids are speaking a different language? I work with teens and young adults who are either entering or exiting college, and their parents. I often find that both parent and child want the same thing — connection. They are just speaking a different language to get it. As a parent myself, I’ve learned that all the wisdom, love and ...

 

Today’s Family: Stress tips for teens

Considering yet another school shooting just a few weeks ago, I am inspired more than ever to work with our young people — tomorrow’s future. One issue, of course, is how do we keep them safe. Just as important is how do we know what to do to help them thrive. As a guidance counselor for the past 22 years and now in private practice, I have seen a multitude of ...

 

Today’s Family: Screen time and the brain

Is social media making us antisocial? Consider this: According to a stunning new study presented at the annual meeting of the Association for Psychological Science by University of Michigan researchers, today's teen are 40 percent less empathetic than those of 30 years ago, and college students who hit campus after 2000 have empathy levels that are 40 percent lower ...