December 24, 2016 - ChaddsFordLive.com

Ivar Atkinson Lundgaard of Kennett Square

Ivar Atkinson “Bud” Lundgaard, former executive of the DuPont Co. and distinguished community leader, died on Dec. 18, at Kendal at Longwood in Kennett Square at the age of 96.

Mr. Lundgaard is predeceased by his parents Ivar Lundgaard and Charlotte Atkinson, his sister Harriett Lundgaard, and his first wife Elizabeth Bodnar. Mr. Lundgaard is survived by his sons Per Lundgaard, Thomas Lundgaard, and Robin Lundgaard; his grandsons Thomsen Lundgaard, Nelson Lundgaard, and Benjamin Lundgaard, and his second wife Susan R. Duer.

Mr. Lundgaard was raised and educated in Rochester, N.Y. In 1937, he graduated from high school and was awarded membership in the National Honor Society. He graduated from the University of Rochester in 1942 with degrees in economics and chemical engineering. During his student years, he was active in student affairs, played on the varsity football, basketball and track teams, was president of his fraternity, Delta Kappa Epsilon, and a member of Tau Beta Pi, the engineering honor society.

After graduation, Mr. Lundgaard began his career in DuPont Co., spending 35 years in the Photo Products Department in research, manufacturing, production and management positions. He was transferred to the Polymer Products Department in 1977. In 1980 he was elected chairman of the board of directors of the National Society of the Plastics Industry. Mr. Lundgaard retired in 1981, at which time he was general manager of the Polymer Products Department.

During his retirement years, Mr. Lundgaard was active in a number of community organizations. He was president of the Delaware Symphony Association from 1985 to 1991. During his term in office, he arranged for DSO to play concerts at the Kennedy Center in Washington, DC, at the Lincoln Center in New York, and for a two-week concert tour of Portugal. These events greatly enhanced the reputation of the DSO.

Mr. Lundgaard was active for many years at the Academy of Life Long Learning (now Osher Lifelong Learning Institute “OLLI”) at University of Delaware. He taught many courses in science, religion and music there and was chairman of the Academy Council in 1997.

Throughout his life, he was active in athletics: a varsity athlete in college, a golfing member of Wilmington Country Club for 35 years, winner of many medals in downhill ski races in Vail and Aspen, and nationally ranked as a downhill ski racer in the age 70 and up division.

A memorial service will be scheduled at a later date. In lieu of flowers, contributions may be made to the Ivar A. Lundgaard Endowment Scholarship Fund at Osher Lifelong Learning Institute (OLLI) at the University of Delaware. Please send contributions to: University of Delaware, Gifts Processing, 83 E. Main St, 3rd Fl., Newark, DE 19716. Make checks payable to ‘University of Delaware’ and include on the memo line the fund name and the person’s name for whom the gift is being made. Arrangements are by Kuzo & Grieco Funeral Home (610-444-4116) of Kennett Square. To view his online tribute and to share a memory with his family, please visit www.griecocares.com

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Pearl Elizabeth Best of Yorklyn

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Pearl Elizabeth Best, 93, of Yorklyn, died Wednesday, Dec. 21, at her residence. She was the wife of Elmer A. Best who died in 1970, and with whom she shared 19 years of marriage.

Born in Unionville, she was the daughter of the late Joseph and Pearl Suloff Dunn.

Pearl was a homemaker.

She enjoyed watching cowboy movies, reading about cowboys , doing Word Find, and being with her family and friends.

She is survived by three sons, Robert E. Best and his wife Diana of Landenberg, Richard A. Best of Yorklyn, and William J. Best and his wife Susan of Yorklyn; three daughters, Rose M. Price and her husband Gary of Landenberg, Barbara A. Best of Yorklyn, and Patricia A. Ward and her husband Wayn of Las Vegas, Nev.; six brothers, John Dunn of Downingtown, Mark Dunn of Coatesville, Fred Dunn on Landenberg, , Gerald Dunn of West Grove, Sam Dunn of West Grove, and Boyd Dunn of Avondale; two sisters, Joann Torello of Kennett Square, and June Basher of Casa Grande, Ariz.; 10 grandchildren, 15 great grandchildren and three great great grandchildren.

Pearl was predeceased by one son, Gary “Jake” L. Dempsey and two brothers, Joe Dunn and Jim Dunn; one sister, Mary Savini.

You are invited to visit with her family and friends from 6 to 8 p.m. on Wednesday, Dec. 28, and again from 10 to 11 a.m. on Thursday, Dec. 29, at the Kuzo & Grieco Funeral Home, 250 West State Street in Kennett Square. Her funeral service will follow at 11. Burial will be in Union Hill Cemetery, Route 82 in Kennett Square.

In memory of Pearl, a contribution may be made to Delaware Hospice, 16 Polly Drummond Center, Polly Drummond Shopping Center, Newark, DE 19711 or to the Helen F. Graham Cancer Center, Suite 1200, 4701 Ogletown Stanton Road, Newark, DE 19713.

Online condolences may be made by visiting www.griecocares.com

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Mind Matters: The light and the dark

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When this column is published, it will be Christmas Eve. Not everyone celebrates this holiday, but even so, many cultures and faiths celebrate this time of year in the Northern Hemisphere when we experience the most darkness. So all the various festivals of lights push against this darkness with the hope of both spiritual light and natural light returning to earth.

Christmas and holidays that are to bring families together are often fraught with difficulties. We may remember past holidays where an alcoholic parent may have toppled into the tree, or worse, gotten into a rage.

Others may have grown up in divorced households or live in one now where the celebrations must be divided between households. Others may find this time of year especially difficult as they remember loved ones who have died.

It does not help to ignore our sad feelings at Christmas. In fact it is best to honor and acknowledge them in some way.

In truth, I am reflecting on my own sadness this holiday. This is the first year in a while that I have unearthed all the ornaments of the past Christmases: those made by my children as well as ornaments given to us by my mother, especially the ones with her grandchildren’s photos.

I decided it was time to bequeath these precious gems to my children before I die. So I’ve been sorting and choosing who should get these ornaments so that they can start placing them on their own trees. There is sadness with this process: the passage of time is etched in these personal treasures.

As it is, this has been a monumental year of change for me and for my spouse. For 30 years we lived in Chadds Ford, so this Christmas in a new place marks both a beginning and an end.

Admittedly, I mourn the end of the Chadds Ford era, where our children were raised from the time they were 5 and 7. I miss the Sunoco station Christmas Eve celebration, the lights of Longwood, the walks at Winterthur, the trains and trees at the Brandywine River Museum, Hank’s Place, our friends and neighbors. What a truly amazing place it has been to raise a family and have a private practice too.

Yes, therapists, whose trade is grief, mourn too. Yet I know I must honor my grief and keep reminding myself of the proverb I’ve said to others so many times: “When the heart grieves for what it has lost, the soul rejoices in what it has found.”

My soul already rejoices in my granddaughter. So I keep remembering — this is why I am here.

* Kayta Curzie Gajdos holds a doctorate in counseling psychology and is in private practice in Chadds Ford, Pennsylvania. She welcomes comments at MindMatters@DrGajdos.com. Past columns are posted to www.drgajdos.com. See book.quietwisdom-loudtimes.com for information about her book, “Quiet Wisdom in Loud Times: The Rise of the Wounded Feminine.”

** The opinions expressed are those of the author and do not necessarily reflect those of the ownership or management of Chadds Ford Live. We welcome opposing viewpoints. Readers may comment in the comments section or they may submit a Letter to the Editor to: editor@chaddsfordlive.com

About Kayta Gajdos

Dr. Kathleen Curzie Gajdos ("Kayta") is a licensed psychologist (Pennsylvania and Delaware) who has worked with individuals, couples, and families with a spectrum of problems. She has experience and training in the fields of alcohol and drug addictions, hypnosis, family therapy, Jungian theory, Gestalt therapy, EMDR, and bereavement. Dr. Gajdos developed a private practice in the Pittsburgh area, and was affiliated with the Family Therapy Institute of Western Psychiatric Institute and Clinic, having written numerous articles for the Family Therapy Newsletter there. She has published in the American Psychological Association Bulletin, the Family Psychologist, and in the Swedenborgian publications, Chrysalis and The Messenger. Dr. Gajdos has taught at the college level, most recently for West Chester University and Wilmington College, and has served as field faculty for Vermont College of Norwich University the Union Institute's Center for Distance Learning, Cincinnati, Ohio. She has also served as consulting psychologist to the Irene Stacy Community MH/MR Center in Western Pennsylvania where she supervised psychologists in training. Currently active in disaster relief, Dr. Gajdos serves with the American Red Cross and participated in Hurricane Katrina relief efforts as a member of teams from the Department of Health and Human Services' Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration.Now living in Chadds Ford, in the Brandywine Valley of eastern Pennsylvania, Dr. Gajdos combines her private practice working with individuals, couples and families, with leading workshops on such topics as grief and healing, the impact of multigenerational grief and trauma shame, the shadow and self, Women Who Run with the Wolves, motherless daughters, and mediation and relaxation. Each year at Temenos Retreat Center in West Chester, PA she leads a griefs of birthing ritual for those who have suffered losses of procreation (abortions, miscarriages, infertility, etc.); she also holds yearly A Day of Re-Collection at Temenos.Dr. Gajdos holds Master's degrees in both philosophy and clinical psychology and received her Ph.D. in counseling at the University of Pittsburgh. Among her professional affiliations, she includes having been a founding member and board member of the C.G. Jung Educational Center of Pittsburgh, as well as being listed in Who's Who of American Women. Currently, she is a member of the American Psychological Association, The Pennsylvania Psychological Association, the Delaware Psychological Association, the American Family Therapy Academy, The Association for Death Education and Counseling, and the Delaware County Mental Health and Mental Retardation Board. Woven into her professional career are Dr. Gajdos' pursuits of dancing, singing, and writing poetry.

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