August 27, 2016

Family’s anti-DUI crusade eludes surprise

With her husband Ken Iwaniec (from left) at her side, Debby Iwaniec accepts the Governor’s Pathfinder Victim Survivor Activist Award for her statewide efforts to curb drunk-driving.

On March 27, 2008, a 24-year-old state trooper had been savoring his dream job, having just completed his probationary period at the Avondale barracks, when his shift ended and he began his drive home.

Trooper Kenton E. Iwaniec had just finished his probationary period at the Avondale barracks, a position that represented his dream job, when he was killed by a drunk driver.
Trooper Kenton E. Iwaniec had just finished his probationary period at the Avondale barracks, a position that represented his dream job, when he was killed by a drunk driver.

Just two miles from the station, a woman transporting her 4-year-old son and a fifth of Grey Goose slammed head-on into Trooper Kenton E. Iwaniec’s vehicle; Kristina M. Quercetti had a blood-alcohol level more than four times the legal limit and oxycodone in her system. The recent graduate of the Police Academy died of his injuries several hours later; Quercetti is serving an 8 ½- to 17-year prison sentence.

Since that day, Iwaniec’s parents, Ken and Debby Iwaniec, have paid tribute to their son through a tireless campaign to spare other families from the unimaginable pain they have endured. They have traveled all over the state, addressing groups ranging from inmates to students, lobbied for tougher DUI laws, and donated hundreds of Breathalyzer kits to Pennsylvania police agencies.

Earlier this month, the state’s Office of Victims’ Services presented Debby Iwaniec with a Governor’s Pathfinder Victim Survivor Activist Award, the most prestigious recognition that Pennsylvania gives to a victims’ services advocate or program. One individual or program is selected annually from a competitive slate of applicants from across the state, according to the Pennsylvania Commission on Crime and Delinquency website.

Iwaniec was nominated by Fayette County, and the news of her recognition proved bittersweet for Peggy Gusz, executive director of the Crime Victims’ Center of Chester County. “Basically they beat us to it,” said Gusz, explaining that her agency had been gearing up for a 2017 nomination.

“We were planning to nominate the entire family,” said Gusz, adding that she fully understood that the nomination process specified an individual award.

“Exceptions can be made, and this situation certainly would have warranted one; this family acts as a single unit,” Gusz said, explaining that sisters Sashonna Zacour, Acacia Houck and Ashley Iwaniec have been involved in many different ways.

Undaunted by being unable to proceed with the nomination, Gusz and members of her agency hatched another plan: Chester County would stage its own surprise awards ceremony during the weekend of Aug. 27 when the Iwaniecs had planned a visit.

“The most important thing is that they received well-deserved recognition,” Gusz said. “But we wanted to add to it because they’ve done so much around Chester County.”

Gusz said that despite living southwest of Pittsburgh, the family returns to the area as many as half a dozen times a year. They regularly attend the Crime Victims’ Center’s annual Candlelight Vigil – a tribute to homicide victims. And they never miss the twice-yearly cleanups of the stretch of Route 41 where the accident occurred.

A photo from happier times shows Kenton E. Iwaniec (top left) with his parents and three sisters.
A cherished family photo shows Kenton E. Iwaniec (top left) with his parents and three sisters.

Although the cleanups began as a PennDOT initiative, they have become a cherished way for the Avondale barracks to remember Kenton Iwaniec, whose contagious enthusiasm for his new job quickly endeared him to his colleagues. Gusz said Debby Iwaniec always brings food, and the cleanup culminates in a celebratory picnic at the barracks.

Gusz said when the Iwaniecs come to Chester County, they typically schedule as many anti-drunk-driving presentations as they can, a routine that they followed this weekend.

“I suddenly realized that there was no time for our ceremony,” Gusz said. “It looks like we’re going to have to forget about surprising them and tell them in advance what we’re doing. Otherwise, we’ll never get the time.”

Gusz said she could understand the family’s desire to reach as many people as possible because she has witnessed the positive impact on audiences firsthand.

“Their presentations are so powerful,” Gusz said. “Each family member has a different perspective and a different way of describing their loss.”

Gusz said the listeners are often first-time DUI offenders who get to see how the choice to drive impaired can affect real people and how the officer who cited them gave them a second chance.

At the conclusion of many of the programs, the Iwaniecs present portable breath-testing units to members of law enforcement. To date, through a foundation they set up in tribute to their son, they have distributed more than 850 of the units, which cost about $600 apiece.

Gusz said on numerous occasions, veteran probation officers who have heard the presentation multiple times are reduced to tears – like most in the audience. For the Iwaniecs, “their grief is ripped open for everyone to see,” but they also get to witness the good that comes out of it, Gusz said.

“One probation officer told me that she was determined that she wasn’t going to cry again, and it happened, anyway,” Gusz said. “She said she didn’t understand why it hit her so hard when she’s heard the program six times before.”

Gusz said she believes she understands why the pain intensifies. “It’s one of the most moving, powerful, victim-impact presentations I’ve ever experienced,” Gusz said. “When you first see it, you sympathize with the family’s terrible loss. Then, over time, you get to know Kenton through the presentation, and it becomes your loss, too.”

For more information on the Iwaniec family’s efforts to curb drunk-driving, visit http://www.trooperiwaniec.org/Kenton_Iwaniec/Welcome.html.

 

 

 

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Coatesville revving up for inaugural Grand Prix

Classic cars – and auto aficionados – are expected to converge on Chester County’s only city for the Coatesville Invitational Vintage Automobile Grand Prix.

Fiat
A Fiat 850 will be one of about 50 classic vehicles on display for the inaugural Coatesville Invitational Vintage Automobile Grand Prix.

Coatesville will host this inaugural event – which aims to evoke the spirit of sports car racing prior to 1965 – on Saturday, Sept. 24. It will feature approximately 50 vintage autos and motorcycles dating back from the early 1900s through the 1960s, according to a city press release.

A race from 9 a.m. to 4 p.m. will follow a 2.2-mile course along Lincoln Highway, encompassing the heart of the city and its neighborhoods along America’s first, super highway. These eye-catching, historical vehicles may be previewed along the “Pit Row,” which will encompass the 100 through the 300 blocks of Lincoln Highway from 9 a.m. to 4:30 p.m.

In addition, a Vendor Village featuring auto and industrial memorabilia will be set up at Gateway Park, located at First Avenue and Lincoln Highway. The village will be open from 10 a.m. to 4:30 p.m.

A 1911 Mercer will be one of the classic cars on display.
A 1911 Raceabout Mercer will be available for viewing in Coatesville on Saturday, Sept. 24.

Bands, food trucks, and wine-tasting will also be available. Featured entertainment will include the Coatesville High School Junior ROTC Band and Silver Sound Disc Jockeys; other special surprise guests will be announced on Grand Prix Day.

Cars will begin lining up between 8 and 9 a.m., and opening festivities are scheduled for 9:15 a.m. at the race starting line: Third Avenue and Lincoln Highway. All vehicles will participate in a parade lap at 9:30 a.m. Final trophy ceremonies will be held at Gateway Park at 3:30 p.m.

Admission is free, and parking in designated areas, including the Coatesville Train Station and Scott Field, will be $5 (credit cards only). Shuttles will run from the designated parking areas to the event.

Proceeds from the Grand Prix will benefit Coatesville’s Park and Recreation Improvement Fund, which serves the city’s 13,000 residents. Event sponsors include Brian Hoskins Ford, West Chester Audi, RDS Maserati, McLaren and Porsche, Pennoni, Brandywine Health Foundation, Cedarville Engineering, and Victory Brewing Company.

For more information, visit http://www.coatesvillegrandprix.com/.

 

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Mind Matters: Memories, dreams, reflections

Excuse me using the title of Carl Jung’s autobiography as my header here. Nevertheless, it is apropos, I think. You see, in a month we will be selling our house and moving north to, if no the call of the wild, to the call of the wonder — of a grandchild.

For 30 years, I have lived and worked in Chadds Ford. Like Carl Jung, my office has been in my home. Unlike Carl Jung, who had a lot of help, I juggled hours between family and profession. Family dinners were a mainstay, but after we ate, I would often return to my office while the children did their homework.

Thinking about how important dinner was, reminds me of how figural our dining room table was to all the events in our lives. Large and sturdy, that table witnessed many stories, and even more celebrations: Christmas parties, Easter feasts, Thanksgiving dinners, baptisms, birthdays, communions, confirmations, showers, and a wedding too.

In our downsizing, this silent solid sentry in our lives needed a new home. Fortunately, the table now resides in my son’s dining room.

Other furniture is gone too, and I am sorting through the layers of the years, taking down the photographs from the walls, unearthing albums of memories from nooks and crannies. The archaeological dig of decades includes diving through my parents’ letters, journals, cards, and clippings — all the boxes that I stuffed away when they died 20 years ago. Never found stacks of money, but I have found emotional treasures — love letters, for example, and photos never seen. Even found some copies of the newspaper my father published in the 1930s. They were well written, with a great layout. “Good job, Dad!” I mused.

Baby clothes, old toys, swim team medals, and those ubiquitous athletic trophies added to the collision of memories.

So I reflect on the memories, considering the choices that were made and the ripple effects they created. If I lived another 30 years, I’d be 100. At 40, we don’t think about what 30 years ahead will portend. Work and parenting fill our days. At 70, the path narrows. However, there are always dreams. My dream for the future is to enjoy family and friends, to work a little less and play a lot more.

* Kayta Curzie Gajdos holds a doctorate in counseling psychology and is in private practice in Chadds Ford, Pennsylvania. She welcomes comments at MindMatters@DrGajdos.com or 610-388-2888. Past columns are posted to www.drgajdos.com. See book.quietwisdom-loudtimes.com for information about her book, “Quiet Wisdom in Loud Times: The Rise of the Wounded Feminine.”

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About Kayta Gajdos

Dr. Kathleen Curzie Gajdos ("Kayta") is a licensed psychologist (Pennsylvania and Delaware) who has worked with individuals, couples, and families with a spectrum of problems. She has experience and training in the fields of alcohol and drug addictions, hypnosis, family therapy, Jungian theory, Gestalt therapy, EMDR, and bereavement. Dr. Gajdos developed a private practice in the Pittsburgh area, and was affiliated with the Family Therapy Institute of Western Psychiatric Institute and Clinic, having written numerous articles for the Family Therapy Newsletter there. She has published in the American Psychological Association Bulletin, the Family Psychologist, and in the Swedenborgian publications, Chrysalis and The Messenger. Dr. Gajdos has taught at the college level, most recently for West Chester University and Wilmington College, and has served as field faculty for Vermont College of Norwich University the Union Institute's Center for Distance Learning, Cincinnati, Ohio. She has also served as consulting psychologist to the Irene Stacy Community MH/MR Center in Western Pennsylvania where she supervised psychologists in training. Currently active in disaster relief, Dr. Gajdos serves with the American Red Cross and participated in Hurricane Katrina relief efforts as a member of teams from the Department of Health and Human Services' Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration.Now living in Chadds Ford, in the Brandywine Valley of eastern Pennsylvania, Dr. Gajdos combines her private practice working with individuals, couples and families, with leading workshops on such topics as grief and healing, the impact of multigenerational grief and trauma shame, the shadow and self, Women Who Run with the Wolves, motherless daughters, and mediation and relaxation. Each year at Temenos Retreat Center in West Chester, PA she leads a griefs of birthing ritual for those who have suffered losses of procreation (abortions, miscarriages, infertility, etc.); she also holds yearly A Day of Re-Collection at Temenos.Dr. Gajdos holds Master's degrees in both philosophy and clinical psychology and received her Ph.D. in counseling at the University of Pittsburgh. Among her professional affiliations, she includes having been a founding member and board member of the C.G. Jung Educational Center of Pittsburgh, as well as being listed in Who's Who of American Women. Currently, she is a member of the American Psychological Association, The Pennsylvania Psychological Association, the Delaware Psychological Association, the American Family Therapy Academy, The Association for Death Education and Counseling, and the Delaware County Mental Health and Mental Retardation Board. Woven into her professional career are Dr. Gajdos' pursuits of dancing, singing, and writing poetry.

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