June 4, 2009

Losing what made us victorious

There is a scene in the film version of Band of Brothers, the true story of Company E of the 101st Airborne during WWII, where Easy Co. is passing a column of German soldiers who have surrendered. The Germans are marching one way down the Autobahn while American troops are in trucks riding in the other direction.

On one of those truck is future writer David Webster who says in the scene, “Hey, you! That’s right, you stupid Kraut bastards! That’s right! Say hello to Ford, and General [expletive deleted] Motors! You stupid fascist pigs! Look at you! You have horses! What were you thinking?”

The reference was to the productive capacity of the United States. Indeed, many recognize that while it was the men and women in uniform who fought the war, it was the ability of American manufacturers to produce that actually won the war for the allies.

Even our enemies knew America’s strongest suit in the conflict. Japanese Adm. Isoroku Yamamoto, the man who planned the attack on Pearl Harbor, alluded to just that when he said the attack did nothing but to “Awaken a sleeping giant and fill it with terrible resolve.”

But the hey day of Ford and General Motors, at least as it was known during WWII, is no more. Bad business decisions by corporate executives, an overly grandiose view of being international businesses and government intrusion into a free market have basically castrated these once giants of productive power.

And now there’s even greater leverage for governmental intrusion. Through bailouts and bankruptcy – the largest bankruptcy in U.S. history – the U.S. government has become a majority shareholder in GM.

A “reluctant shareholder,” as president Obama calls the government’s ownership stake, now owns 60 percent of the company.

“The federal government will refrain from exercising its rights as a shareholder in all but the most fundamental corporate decisions,” the president said earlier this week.

He added that the company, not the government would decide where to open new plants and what types of new cars would be built.

Yet, there are some who want the government to dictate what GM should do.

Documentary filmmaker Michael Moore talked about an “upside” in an interview on Keith Olbermann’s June 1 show.

“We own a car company,” Mr. Moore said. “We are going to be able to control what this company is going to do. … We are using these factories to build the things that we need, bullet trains, light rail, alternative energy, cleaner buses, things that society needs in the 21st century.”

Moore spoke of the need to keep the 21,000 employees expected to be laid off and tell the company what to build as President Roosevelt did during the war.

What is key is that Mr. Moore and others of his philosophical bent simply want to control the decisions of others, and he wants the administration to tell GM what to do.

Mr. Moore has a great deal of faith in his form of statism, that being of the left wing variety, but he would never have wanted the previous administration to have the power now in Mr. Obama’s hand, power that Mr. Moore wants the president to use.

Maybe there will be a bullet train that no one wants to ride as long as they have better alternatives, such as their own cars, that Mr. Moore wants the government to control.

And while Mr. Obama says the government will be a “reluctant” shareholder, the fact that the government holds the power to tell GM what to do is the fist inside the velvet glove.

Government policy in the form of the New Deal failed to put an end to the great depression. It was WWII that ended it. But we no longer have a healthy Ford or GM to rely on to get us through another war.

Worse still, there would be less freedom and liberty worth fighting for. Governments know nothing about running businesses, but many governments dearly love to control those who do run them. That is an assault on liberty and it is a pity that the U.S. government is following that tainted path.

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Mind Matters: The Need for Empathy

We’ve been hearing a lot in the news about the danger of having empathy these days, but not much about what it means if you don’t have it. Well, folks, according to the DSM IV, the diagnostic and statistical manual used by psychiatrists, psychologists, and other mental health professionals, one of the characteristics of a narcissistic personality disorder is “lack of empathy.”

If we are fortunate enough to have been adequately and appropriately nurtured as infants and children, we hopefully develop into empathic human beings. In fact, it is the empathy itself that defines our maturation.

Empathy is that quality that allows us to put ourselves in another person’s shoes, even when they don’t fit our feet. In other words, empathy helps us to understand another. Consider the image of under-stand: you are not above the other, but standing under, “carrying” the perception, thought, emotions of the other; and you are not disengaged from them. It is a shift of focus to empathize.

This shift of focus removes us from the self-absorption that goes beyond healthy narcissism. (Yes, there is a certain amount of self-absorption we need for self-care.) Empathy gives us the ability to bracket for a while our own opinions and perspectives, and see an issue from another’s place. We begin “to get” what it is like for the other person.

Empathy is not sympathy. Sympathy can arise out of a place of pity, a place of separation from where the other stands. It is not an understanding so much as a place of distance, “I’m glad that’s not me.” Empathy is not lily livered liberalism. It is the essence of being human in its highest sense. When we empathize, we care for another out of a deep respect (“Re-spect” implies to “look again.”) for the other’s own personhood. Examples abound. When our child is in a certain mood and we are able to empathize, we consider that the behavior is not to be “taken personally.” If the child feels understood, often the situation resolves itself because we, as parents, responded empathically instead of reacting impulsively.

And when spouses can empathically listen to each other, bracketing their own points of view for a time to let the other speak, a shift in an argument can occur.

At every level of human relationship—from the individual to the Globe—empathy is a necessary ingredient to sound communication. Without empathy, communication devolves into manipulative strategy.

So perhaps it is empathy then that becomes the champion of “objectivity” since, without it we may become subjective narcissists sipping sherry and smoking cigars in our own solipsistic universe.

Kayta Curzie Gajdos holds a doctorate in counseling psychology and is in private practice in Chadds Ford, Pennsylvania. She welcomes comments at MindMatters@DrGajdos.com or (610)388-2888. Past columns are posted to http://www.DrGajdos.com/Articles.

About Kayta Gajdos

Dr. Kathleen Curzie Gajdos ("Kayta") is a licensed psychologist (Pennsylvania and Delaware) who has worked with individuals, couples, and families with a spectrum of problems. She has experience and training in the fields of alcohol and drug addictions, hypnosis, family therapy, Jungian theory, Gestalt therapy, EMDR, and bereavement. Dr. Gajdos developed a private practice in the Pittsburgh area, and was affiliated with the Family Therapy Institute of Western Psychiatric Institute and Clinic, having written numerous articles for the Family Therapy Newsletter there. She has published in the American Psychological Association Bulletin, the Family Psychologist, and in the Swedenborgian publications, Chrysalis and The Messenger. Dr. Gajdos has taught at the college level, most recently for West Chester University and Wilmington College, and has served as field faculty for Vermont College of Norwich University the Union Institute's Center for Distance Learning, Cincinnati, Ohio. She has also served as consulting psychologist to the Irene Stacy Community MH/MR Center in Western Pennsylvania where she supervised psychologists in training. Currently active in disaster relief, Dr. Gajdos serves with the American Red Cross and participated in Hurricane Katrina relief efforts as a member of teams from the Department of Health and Human Services' Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration.Now living in Chadds Ford, in the Brandywine Valley of eastern Pennsylvania, Dr. Gajdos combines her private practice working with individuals, couples and families, with leading workshops on such topics as grief and healing, the impact of multigenerational grief and trauma shame, the shadow and self, Women Who Run with the Wolves, motherless daughters, and mediation and relaxation. Each year at Temenos Retreat Center in West Chester, PA she leads a griefs of birthing ritual for those who have suffered losses of procreation (abortions, miscarriages, infertility, etc.); she also holds yearly A Day of Re-Collection at Temenos.Dr. Gajdos holds Master's degrees in both philosophy and clinical psychology and received her Ph.D. in counseling at the University of Pittsburgh. Among her professional affiliations, she includes having been a founding member and board member of the C.G. Jung Educational Center of Pittsburgh, as well as being listed in Who's Who of American Women. Currently, she is a member of the American Psychological Association, The Pennsylvania Psychological Association, the Delaware Psychological Association, the American Family Therapy Academy, The Association for Death Education and Counseling, and the Delaware County Mental Health and Mental Retardation Board. Woven into her professional career are Dr. Gajdos' pursuits of dancing, singing, and writing poetry.

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Blogging Along the Brandywine: A series of disjointed ramblings

I’m not sure how or when it happened, but at some point I became a sleep-deprived night owl.

I often get e-mails from my associates on the Sanderson Museum Board asking me what I was doing sending out emails at 1:45 a.m.

The only time it worked to my benefit was when a high school classmate, who is a Baptist minister, was working with refugees in Thailand last summer. We could e-mail in real time.
 
I remember many New Years Eves, when my sister and I were little. Our parents would put us to bed early, then wake us up at 11:45 p.m. to come downstairs to watch a bit of Guy Lombardo’s orchestra and watch the ball come down in Time Square. Yes, my children, there was life before Dick Clark’s Rockin’ New Years Eve.   

When I was in high school, I was often in bed by 8:50 p.m. and would put my transistor radio under my pillow and listen to Hy Lit sign-off on WIBG (OK, now you know how old I am).

Maybe it was my freshman year in college when I would never be through with my studies until almost 1 a.m. and have a 7:30 a.m. class dissecting fetal pigs in biology in the morning. Freshman year is always a real introduction to Coffee 101.

In the last few years when I would go to Maine for a week to crew on the schooner, Lewis R French, I’d be up at the crack of dawn. Then after being in the sun, wind, rain or cold all day, hauling up anchor, helping raise sail, hauling in the yawl boat and endless tacking etc, I would fall exhausted into my bunk by 9 p.m.

But sitting at a desk in front of a computer for much of my day just does not get the blood flowing. People on the phone get my blood flowing, but not in a good way.

So now, watching David Letterman’s Top 10 List is just a prelude to my evening. Next, up is the slightly deranged Scotsman, Craig Ferguson with the Late Late Show. And if I’m still awake, there’s always the repeat of Channel 3’s 11 p.m. news at 1:30 a.m. Then, my alarm goes off at 6:15 a.m.

Which now brings me to the point of this blog:

I think we need some “Top 10 Lists” about Chadds Ford.

So I will give you three really easy questions to answer and will devote future blogs to your top answers in each category.
 
Now, here are your three questions:

1) What are the best things about living in Chadds Ford?

2) If there were a Mayor of Chadds Ford, who would it be, and in a few sentences, why?

3) What do you dislike most about driving on Route 1?

You can answer me either through my Chadds Ford Live email address, brandywinebard@live.com  or my private email. And as some of you are squeamish about seeing your name in lights, I will only use your first name if the plotline calls for it.

So that’s your first homework assignment for Chadds Ford Live boys and girls. And since it’s web-based I will not accept any excuses like the dog ate it.

Well it’s getting on towards 1:15 a.m., and it’s time for me to log off, shut down the Dell and turn in.

Good night.

About Sally Denk Hoey

Sally Denk Hoey, is a Gemini - one part music and one part history. She holds a masters degree cum laude from the School of Music at West Chester University. She taught 14 years in both public and private school. Her CD "Bard of the Brandywine" was critically received during her almost 30 years as a folk singer. She currently cantors masses at St Agnes Church in West Chester where she also performs with the select Motet Choir. A recognized historian, Sally serves as a judge-captain for the south-east Pennsylvania regionals of the National History Day Competition. She has served as president of the Brandywine Battlefield Park Associates as well as the Sanderson Museum in Chadds Ford where she now curates the violin collection. Sally re-enacted with the 43rd Regiment of Foot and the 2nd Pennsylvania Regiment for 19 years where she interpreted the role of a campfollower at encampments in Valley Forge, Williamsburg, Va., Monmouth, N.J. and Lexington and Concord, Mass. Sally is married to her college classmate, Thomas Hoey, otherwise known as "Mr. Sousa.”

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